When MFJ Drops Knowledge Y'all Better Listen

I tend to (attempt to) refrain from obscenities in this blog, mostly because what would my mother say? But I am a lover of words and each word has its special place and reason for existing and sometimes there is nothing better than the right expletive.

This brings me to my latest discovery. I've been going out of my comfort zone and throwing myself in new situations and meeting new people and the people I am drawn to are the ones who are unapologetically honest.

Honesty is often in direct conflict with politeness and is therefore a pain in my ass, since I want everyone to like me. I find myself apologizing for saying the wrong thing, for not knowing the rules, for not getting it perfectly right, for making the tiniest or largest mistake, or for eating the last piece of pizza (that's right it was ME).

But what I am coming to realize is that I am always apologizing for shit that no one else seems to apologize for. I apologize for nearly everything; sometimes I say, "I'm sorry" totally out of context because too much time has elapsed since the last time I apologized.

I say this to share a statement I heard from someone who makes no apologies for his journey. His name is Mother-Fucker Jones. Well its probably not on his birth certificate, but that's what I call him because he has this amazing gift of fitting the phrase mother fucker into nearly every sentence, in a way I find downright poetic...and offensive, which is why I like it so much.

Recently Mother-Fucker Jones dropped the following knowledge on a group of us:

"Let me just say how much I love you beautiful motherfuckers. You guys keep me sane in a way that none of the other motherfuckers can. I can spill my shit to you, tell you all the crazy mother-fucking shit that I do and you motherfuckers still show up...every goddamn time."

(Ah, le mot juste!)

But what MFJ was really saying is that we're all fucked up and that is what makes us relatable and human and, bonus, it’s fucking funny. My MFJ moments are few and far between, but I am learning the value and the sweet liberation of showing the world my flaws and not apologizing for them. I've spent most of my life trying to hide all the fucked-up shit that I am ashamed of and apologizing profusely when some of it slips out. But MFJ taught me that the fucked-up shit is what its all about, that is what makes us beautiful.

I guess I'm working on realizing that I'm a beautiful motherfucker too.

Also, I'm sorry for all the cursing....

Dammit.